You have got to be kidding! Being candid with my boss (or my peers) is like committing vocational suicide! Everyone knows you have to keep your head down and get along.
But, I wonder if you have missed some of the costs of not being fully honest:
- You are a bright and capable person. Your insights and opinions are extremely valuable. When you hold back, your team and your boss aren’t getting your best self.
- It doesn’t feel good to show up less than fully honest. When you do, you store up negative energy that comes out elsewhere. How many times have you gone home frustrated and complained to your spouse about all of the things you didn’t say at work?
- You actually get less effective. The more you sacrifice your uniqueness, the more ordinary you become. It is your uniqueness that is the substance of your career potential. Playing it safe makes you like everyone else. That is not your best and most powerful play.
I’m not naive. I know many bosses and work cultures don’t encourage telling the truth and some actually punish people for being candid. If you work in such a place, it is likely time to look elsewhere. You are simply too good to waste your time and skills in a workplace that doesn’t value that which makes you special.