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What Do You Most Cherish?

We often think a lot of things are important to us and aren’t really clear about that which really matters.

Here is a quick way to determine that which you hold most dear.  I think you will find this exercise insightful and enlightening.

Right now make a list of the 5 most important things in your life.  Take your time and consider everything.  When I have used this exercise with people before they list things like their family, their health, their success, their friends.  I ask them to be more specific if they can. Instead of grouping your family together, break it out into smaller pieces; your spouse, your kids, your parents, your extended family. Make a long list and then settle on the top five.

Once you are pretty sure you have identified the five things that are most important to you, I tell you that you can’t have five.  You can have only four. Which will you eliminate? This should feel like a difficult choice because everything on your list is very, very important to you. If you had to sacrifice something, would it be your spouse, your health, your children, your home? Wow.

You are down to four.  Now, I tell you that you can’t have four.  You have to get down to three.  This is even harder.


By now, you get the drill. You can’t have three. You can’t have two. You have to eliminate all but the one thing that is most important to you.  What will it be? What do you cherish in life the most?

While this process of becoming clear can be a bit painful, it is extremely helpful in elucidating your heart of hearts. When you know what is important to you, invest in it.  Create a vision for each of those things that are most precious.  Make a plan to bring that vision to life. Make conscious choices every day to live aligned with your most cherished things.


About Jack Skeen

Jack Skeen
Jack Skeen, founder of Skeen Leadership, has been coaching bright and successful leaders for close to two decades, spending thousands of hours addressing every imaginable leadership, business and life issue with wisdom and professionalism.

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