If you have ever been in love you can remember finding everything about the object of your love to be fascinating. You were interested in his breakfast cereal, the house where she grew up, his favorite book and her favorite song. When we are “in love” we idealize that person treasuring them as wonderful in every way.
When couples divorce, the opposite often occurs. We “villainize” each other; seeing no merit in the person we used to treasure and finding almost everything about them to be odious and incomprehensible.
We could ask ourselves how that person could have changed so much, but seldom do because we would have to face the fact they didn’t change, only our story about them changed. But, that is not the issue of interest here.
I want you to consider the power of your “in love” story to create magical things.
It is because you see your love to be so amazing that you are willing to commit to marriage and lay the foundation of a family. It is because you are in love that you are forgiving, understanding and accepting. It is because you are in love that you are generous, giving and sacrificing. Being in love is the dynamic that builds true and enduring marriages and stable families. Being in love is wonderfully and powerfully creative.
Perhaps we should learn from this the power of our stories. Our stories can create amazing things. When we say we will put a man on the moon, we do it. When we say we build a business from the ground up, it can be done.
I started my executive coaching business with my friend, Jim Dethmer. He asked me how much I wanted to make. I had two children in college at the time (almost 20 years ago) and said I needed to net $250,000. He then asked how many days I wanted to work a week and how much vacation time I wanted. I thought my financial goal to be so high that I was willing to work 9 days a week and take no vacation. Fortunately, Jim didn’t see it that way. He wanted to only work 4 days a week and have 4 weeks off each year.
Without customers or products, we set out to achieve our goal. We asked ourselves what we needed to charge per day to hit our financial goals. We then asked ourselves what are target market might be willing to buy at that price. Defining our customers and products, we started selling. We hit our goal the very first year!
The lesson I learned was the power of stories.
Are their stories that have created success in your life?